Know a Back
Stabber? Congratulations!
When I talk in my keynotes and seminars about how to deal with difficult
people, I ask the audience to raise their hand if they’ve ever known a Back Stabber.
Boy, do I get a lot of hands!
And everyone seems relieved when I say if someone talks negatively about
them behind their back, then they must be doing something RIGHT!
It’s true: Back Stabbers have low self-esteem and believe,
“If I bring you down, it will lift me up.”
Think about it: there are only two ways to have the tallest building in town:
1. build the tallest building yourself, or 2. tear down everybody else's buildings!
The higher you climb your mountain of success,
the easier a target you become for the people down below.
So what do you do if
a Back Stabber has chosen you as a target?
I like Zig Ziglar's advice:
"Don't be distracted by criticism. Remember- the only taste of success some people
have is when they take a bite out of you."
The key word is "distracted." Don't waste the valuable real estate of your mind worrying about some jealous
Back Stabber.
"I will not
let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet." Gandhi
Congratulate yourself on your
success and follow Gandhi's peaceful example of non-confrontation. Take the high road and keep smiling.
Until next month...... make your Ta-da lists and stay in The
Zone!
Susan
