June 1, 2006   Trumps, Boy Toys, Ben Franklin and Celebrating Women Who Aren't Kids   If your last name is Trump, apparently money can buy love, but it sure in heck can't buy a good hairdo.    The Donald's comb-over do, or whatever it is he does, is getting worse and his hair color keeps getting blonder too.   And someone really needs to tell the ex-Mrs. Trump, as in Ivanna, that bee hives pretty much went out of vogue in the sixties.  So why are The Three Tomatoes even mentioning the Trump word? Well as it happens, The Donald is not the only one seeking reality show nirvana.   Ivanna had her only little reality show, all three episodes, that appeared last month on the Oxygen Network, watched by about three people and they weren't The Three Tomatoes.    But the premise had us laughing, and got us to thinking and talking about older women, younger men and visa versa.   Boy Toys   Ivanna's show, cutely called "Ivanna Young Man" apparently had a very attractive, wealthy divorcee in her forties, and with Ivanna's help was selecting a twenty-five year old hunk from a field of six young hunks under the watchful eye of Ivanna.   Ivanna of course has experience in this area.  She lives her mantra  "I'd rather be a baby-sitter than a nursemaid" with her own boy toy who is more than 20 years her junior.  One interesting factoid was that apparently they had a tough time finding the wealthy divorcee because several of the ex-husbands threatened to cut off their ex's funding if they went on this show.   These are the same ex-husbands who have their own little twenty-something playthings, so alas the double-standard still exits.      Real Life     So what happens in  real reality, i.e., real life?  The Three Tomatoes were recently chatting about a single guy we know who's in his mid-sixties and will only date women in their 30's and maybe 40's, but only when he's desperate.   He had been dating a 32 year old for several months and was devastated that she broke up with him -- not because of his age, but because he wouldn't "commit".   Like, duh.   Then  there's a wonderful tomato friend who was widowed way too early, and is funny, smart, gorgeous,  with the body and energy level of a 20  year old, who's not looking for "commitment" and would love to find someone to just have fun with and she was bemoaning that guys her age only want to date women her daughters' ages.   So maybe Ivanna's onto something after all?  So to all those aging, balding lotharios, we say bring on those boy toys .  And by the way, you don't know what you're missing!      Women who aren't kids     In fact, The Three Tomatoes think any of you guys, no matter what your age, should just count your blessings if you're lucky enough to have a real woman in your life.  Which brings us to why women who aren't kids are great, and why we're having a live Three Tomatoes event to celebrate us.   And of course guys who love "women who aren't kids" are welcomed to join us.   In fact, we'd love to get comments from tomatoes and guys on why women who aren't kids are great.   Email tomato@thethreetomatoes.com.   Men who love women who aren't kids   Here are are some quotes from a couple of guys who truly appreciate "women who aren't kids".  The first two quotes, while widely attributed to Andy Rooney, were in fact part of a column on women over 40 written by Frank Kaiser,  a columnist whose Suddenly Senior articles are published on his web site and newspapers across the U.S. "A woman over 40 will never wake you in the middle of the night to ask, 'What are you thinking?' , she doesn't care what you think."  "A woman over 40 knows herself well enough to be assured in who she is, what she is, what she wants and from whom.  Few women past the age of 40 give a damn what you might think about her or what she's doing."  And then there's the famous piece about older women penned in 1745 by non other than Ben Franklin, know as the "Old Mistresses'Apologue".   Here is a bit of the advice he gave a young man on why "in all your amours you should prefer old women to young ones: "Because as they have more knowledge of the world and their minds are better stor'd with observations, their conversation is more improving and more lastingly agreement." "Because the compunction is less.  The having made a young girl miserable  may give you frequent bitter reflections; none of which can attend the making of an old woman happy." We hope to see you all at The Three Tomatoes cocktail party on June 22nd.   Click here for more info and to purchase tickets.   ‘til next week,   The Three Tomatoes      ©Copyright 2006.   The Three Tomatoes.  All rights reserved.

You know you're a tomato if...you really like hanging out with people who remember when rabbit ears were something on top of your black and white TV set;   who listened to 45s; and remember when the voting age was 21 and the legal drinking age was 18. *********************** Buy tickets now for The Three Tomatoes Live Event Join us for cocktails , shopping and more on June 22 from 6 to 9  PM at the Penn and Brush in New York City for a celebration of our first anniversary honoring "women who aren't kids."    You can buy tickets on line for $55, or via phone.  Click here.     *******************  About the Pen and Brush The venue for our first live The Three Tomatoes Event, the Pen and Brush, founded over 110 years ago, is an international membership organization for women who are professionally active in the literary, visual and performing arts. Based in a historic landmark 1840's Greek Revival townhouse in New York's Greenwich Village, the parlor floor comprises three spacious rooms with intricate crown moldings, marble fireplaces, parquet floors and 16-foot ceilings. Graced with a Steinway grand piano dating to early 1900, these rooms can be used for exhibitions, concerts and readings. Tomatoes love birthdays.   Yes their own.   In our last The Three Tomatoes poll, the majority of you actually love to celebrate those milestone birthdays. ********************** Vote in this week's The Three Tomatoes' Poll. What do you think of older women with younger men?  Click here to vote. ****************** Check out Sisterwoman.com   Just launched, sisterwoman.com is an online community that celebrates and nurtures women's real-life "SisterCircles," and gives girlfriends an easy way to stay in touch despite increasingly hectic lives.   Join  The Three Tomatoes sister circle and start your own circle too.   **********************